The Seductive Coquette

This is the third post I’ve written in reference to Robert Greene’s Book, The Art of Seduction. Yes, it fascinates me till no end. While whisking through the words of comparable history of the darkest intent, I saw myself as one of the nine seducers. The description reminds me of comments made about my own demeanor. Not just how I behave in a relationship, but how my personality type is portrayed. The very seductress I am referring to is The Coquette. 

She is hot and cold. At one end of the spectrum, showing passion and fire and shifting to the cold and despondent. The historical significance of Josephine as the coquette and how driven Napoleon became as a result, gives the reader a clearer picture of its operation. She was cold in her correspondence and hardly prompt at replies. Sounds a bit like how I respond to phone calls and texts. The coquette is self-sufficient and never jealous. The victim samples a taste of captivating desire and is then doused with ice-cold indifference. From what I understand, this will drive a man mad with desire. He has to have this self-sufficient woman with her cat-like independence and confident ways.

But I’m not trying to seduce anyone, this is just how I am. In fact, you’ll find that most INTJs are this way. As an introvert, I need to recharge. Even if I am really into someone, I will back away. Also, when I’m and NOT into someone, I will back away. This creates problems at times, stalkers and obsessive types become entranced or mesmerized. It is a real eye opener to understand the seductive effective this can have.

After reading the entire book, I was disappointed that there wasn’t a direct correlation of what seducer/victim types are most commonly attracted. Greene does indicate that one should not seduce someone of the same type. Napoleon was The Conqueror victim type, a type I am not particularly fond of but have found myself trying to end those types of relationships. This being said any relationship involving an extrovert makes me want to bash my head into something obliterating. The Rescuer is easy to attract because a self-sufficient attitude may prevail, there is always a troubling situation in paradise that one may need saving from. I find the rescuer too controlling and aggravating.

Now that I am thinking about it, I wonder which victim type I find worthy of seducing.

(Not that I would ever do such a thing.)

Victim Theory and the MBTI: Which Victim Type is the INTJ?

In response to my post,The Narcissist Game, a reader made a comment about how the victim types correlate with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. The victim types are from Robert Greene's book The Art of Seduction. There are eighteen types that nine seducer types target. Here is a link to the eighteen victim types.

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Ronan RiemanJohns from Google+ theorized:

“Disappointed Dreamer is definitely IN.  (Introverted Intuitive)

The Sensualist seems to be ISFP. (Introverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving)

The Rescuers are probably either ESFJ or ENFJ. I was in a relationship with an ENFJ who was a

Rescurer. (Extroverted Sensing Feeling Judging) (Extroverted Intuiting Feeling Judging)

The Aging Baby could be ESFP or ESTP.(Extroverted Sensing Feeling or Thinking Perceiving)

The Professor is probably more likely to be a NT (Rational).

Drama Queens, ESFP or ESFJ.

The Conqueror seems to be (I/E)NTJ. The reference to Napoleon seems appropriate, as Napoleon is
often typed as an ENTJ. (Introverted or Extroverted Intuiting Thinking Judging)

New Prude sounds like ISFJ or maybe ISTJ." (Introverted Sensing Feeling or Thinking Judging)
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 The other victim types are more difficult to match with a particular MBTI type. After some analyzing, this is my theory on the rest.

The Reformed Rake or Siren- Former seducers that have become old, attached, or disfigured

could be any Extroverted type.

The Crushed Star- Another Extroverted type that was once the center of attention.

The Pampered Royal- This type is sensory driven, so any Sensing type.

The Novice- “Seductive language” and “colorful events appeal to their sensitive senses”. Either the ST or NT core type seem to fit this category.

The Exotic Fetishist- Exotic and different. Because this type strays away from convention, the Intuitive type would be a proper fit.

The Beauty- The Beauty wants to been admired for something other than aesthetics because beauty dies. Concerned about the future leads to an association with Intuitive types preferably ones with the Fi function. This could also hold true for a Sensing type with Fi.

1^st Choices: INTJ, INFP, ENFP, ENTJ.

2^nd Choices: ISTJ, ESTJ, ISFP, ESFP.

The Roué- They have had the good life. Their worldliness hides their sentimentality. I would think this would be any type with Fi in the Tertiary or Inferior cognitive position.

ISTJ, INTJ, ESTJ, ENTJ.

The Idol Worshiper- The obsessive and devout. I tend to think of the agents of change INTJ and INFJ, but this could be anyone.

The Lonely Leader- This would be leader types that are thinking and judging types. Feeling types are more social and less lonely. INTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, ESTJ.

The Floating Gender- INFJ is a feminine personality so whenever this type is a male and INTJ is a male personality so maybe when this type is a female. This is just a thought but this could be anyone.

According to the combined speculation, INTJ could fit into ten out of the eighteen types.

Intuition versus Fear

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My inner voice can be a little bitchy and sarcastic. As far back as I can remember, this guidance has served me in many ways. This voice has kept me out of trouble, made me reflect on something specific for relevance, answered questions, directed focus to find ideas or information, and allows me to process the world around me in a way I can understand.

When I was younger, I was rebellious and careless. I would put myself in dangerous situations and glide past horrendous obstacles. Today, I exercise great caution and only take risks with statistically viable outcomes. Staying out of trouble has always been a concern of mine because chaos has an interesting way of finding me. My life has drastically changed in the last twenty years. Although it can be difficult, I cannot avoid change. Divorce, single-parent child birth, going back to college, switching majors, and changing jobs (schools). I didn't avoid the difficult changes out of fear because these changes chose me and pulled me towards a projected goal

When I don't listen to intuition, I feel it.

Positive change- A welling inside of my chest.
Negative change- (caution) a punch in the stomach.
Aha moment- Splash of water.
Environment Focus- Pulling on the head to physically take notice. Hearing something before hand.

Positive Change

When I knew I wanted to change my major and obtain a 2nd degree in mathematics education, I could feel it in my chest like heat was about to burst through. I was toying with the idea and thinking of the pros and cons. I tend to bounce ideas with intuition and she says "stop making the stupid list and just make the change". If I continue to speculate, the imaginary alien begins to push its way though my chest cavity. I'll feel like I'm on fire and I can't sleep, eat, or do anything. Action must be taken quickly.

You see, I don't really care for feeling these things. Stress and the Ni-Fi loop is one hell of a place for your mind to exist.

Negative Change

This is when I am going to make a "loose cannon" decision. Like leaving a relationship into another one that has pitfalls that I can't foresee. By now, I should know if I can't envision myself in the change, something is amiss. Ignoring intuition and listening to someone who has more of their best interest at heart is a sure fire way to piss her off. If I begin to proceed with a bad decision, I can feel what resembles a punch in the stomach. It feels terrible.

That's not intuition it is FEAR.

Yes, I do experience fear. Especially with matters pertaining to emotions. But don't insult me. My primary cognitive function in intuition. I found websites with people proclaiming the difference between the two. Sometimes there are plenty of reasons to be afraid of choosing to do something incredibly foolish.

Aha Moment

Good ideas, brilliant ideas, and answers to hard to answer question present in this form. Since the mind is so quick and fleeting, intuition must communicate quickly. It feels like cold water. I'll even make a gasping for breath sound. Sometimes I will reflect on dreams or something someone said or did because intuition wants me to have a realization. If I scan without any luck, that's when she will hit me with it. She seems sadistic at times.

Environment Focus

This happens when I need to notice something. Like a student who is about to piss me off.  Feeling someone behind me. Quite a few times I will hear a doorbell or the phone ringing seconds before it actually happens. Hearing some one pull up in the drive way and no one is there and then watching headlights on a car as it creeps forward.

How does your intuition manifest?